Building better social skills
Socializing is not easy for the child with ADHD. Behaviors that are common symptoms of the disease, such as pushiness, impatience, and verbal and physical abusiveness, can upset or intimidate classmates or peers. Although you may not be with your child to monitor every social setting, there are steps you can take to help improve his or her skills of dealing with others.
Model good behavior
Children often learn by watching adults, so it is important for you and your family members to exhibit the same behaviors desired from your child, like sharing, taking turns, and being polite. Try to avoid yelling, name-calling, or other negative behaviors.
Pair up your child with another child who is a positive role model
A child who naturally uses good social skills can influence your child's behaviors. By the same token, avoid children who are too aggressive or who lack good social skills.
Encourage your child to invite a classmate over to play
Large groups can be difficult for children with ADHD. Persuade your child to have one classmate over for a "play date." Plan structured activities for them to do under your supervision, such as crafts or a game. Even though your child might prefer computer or video games, try to avoid them at play dates because they do not foster social learning.
Supervise your child's play dates carefully
Watch for any signs that activity is becoming out of hand—too loud, rough, or hostile. Try to settle things down by interrupting the children's play for a snack or another quieter activity.
Reward good behavior
When you are able to watch your child in social situations, quietly call him or her over occasionally to review the observed behavior. Reiterate what behaviors are desired, share examples of when he or she behaved this way, and give a reward for those instances.
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