To avoid this cycle and to stay in control, one of the most important things you can do is to care for yourself. The first step in self-care is to give yourself permission to explore your feelings and to adapt ways to cope with them.
Denial
When a child is first diagnosed with ADHD, some parents may deny or minimize the disorder. They refuse to acknowledge that ADHD is a brain disorder. They desperately hold onto the idea that their child's behavior is something a little counseling or better parenting can correct.
How to cope
Get a second or even third opinion. Learn all you can about the disorder-read books, research the library or Internet, or join a local ADHD parent support group. The more you learn about ADHD, the more readily you will understand its nature, cause, and proper treatment.
Frustration
It is common for parents to feel frustrated about their child's ADHD. Unfortunately, they often take their frustration out on teachers, doctors, friends, and family.
How to cope
It is easy to lash out, especially when we feel stressed. We usually end up regretting what we say or do in frustration. When you are feeling angry or frustrated, learn to delay your response. Step away from the situation. Take a few deep breaths before dealing with others.
Grief
Experiencing grief about your child's disorder is natural. You may grieve for the loss of a so-called "normal" family or for the future you had imagined for your child.
How to cope
Talk about your feelings with other parents of children with ADHD. Work to reframe your beliefs about the disorder. Your child may struggle with certain areas in his or her life, but he or she also has special talents and gifts too.
Isolation
Parents of children with ADHD often feel stuck, believing that they cannot take the child anywhere, that they are all alone, and that no one else faces these issues.
How to cope
Consider joining a support group for parents of children with ADHD. Or make a point of reaching out to friends you may have lost touch with and plan a social activity.
