Challenges for the Whole Family
ADHD does not only have an impact on the child who is diagnosed with it. Symptoms of the disorder can also upset the family, which can turn the home, typically a secure and comfortable place, into a cycle of frustration and stress.

• For the parents
  Trying to discipline a child who is uncontrollably active, does not listen, or throws tantrums can be very stressful. At times, parents may feel so frustrated and helpless that they lose sight of what they know about their child's disorder—these behaviors are not intentional. As a result, the parent may resort to ineffective disciplining methods, such as screaming, spanking, or harsh language. These tactics are unlikely to control the child but can make the child and other family members feel badly—including the parent, who may feel guilty for scolding the child.

• For the siblings
  Living with a brother or sister who has ADHD can present real conflicts for his or her siblings. For instance, a child with ADHD may push other siblings around or take their personal belongings. Perhaps the child with ADHD is incapable of completing household chores, leaving the bulk of responsibility to other siblings. Or maybe the time and attention spent on the child with ADHD leads other siblings to feel neglected. While they may dearly love their brother or sister with ADHD, siblings may argue and become disobedient because they resent how the disorder is affecting their lives.

Seeking Help
Once the child with ADHD is diagnosed and treated, the problems the disorder may have caused in the home can begin to disappear. Sometimes, family members also find it easier to cope if they seek help for themselves. Sources of help you may consider include:

• Parent skills training to teach techniques for managing your child's behavior.
• A support group to connect with others who have similar concerns and experiences with ADHD.
• A social worker or other mental health professional who can provide you with one-on-one counseling.

Surviving Vacations, Holidays, and Special Times
Children and adolescents with ADHD respond well to structure and routine. Special times like vacations or holidays can upset the routine, bringing a level of excitement and stress that can send your child—and you—over the top. There are ways to cope and enjoy these special times.

• Make sure your child gets plenty of rest. Try to maintain your child's usual sleep, meal, and medication schedule.
• Let your child know beforehand what is going to be happening.
• Watch for disruptive behaviors. If your child gets too wound up, distract him or her with a break, snack, different activity, or a time-out.
• Assign your child special jobs to give him or her positive ways to contribute. Maybe he or she can decorate the holiday table, make special placemats for guests, or help make a holiday dish.
• Provide ways to burn off excess energy. On a car trip, stop for a family hike. After a holiday meal, go bike riding.
• Suggest reading materials about ADHD to relatives who will be spending time with your child, so that they will understand the disorder.